After a chatting with NewscasterHottie, fellow bloggers and reading posts on the subject I am all worked up about the topic of shithead family members. I am one who believes that it is okay to not be all close and chummy with all your family. I blame it on my past experiences with abusive family and all my drama. There are just some people who will always be a pain in your ass and they may never change.

If someone is a shithead (family or not) you have the right to choose not to frequently associate with them. Just because you marry someone does not mean their family can manipulate you and play fucking head games that you have to endure for the sake of “family unity”. Sure you might have to see them occasionally at big gatherings and that will stink but the way I see it, if they want to be more included in your life they should find ways to treat you more respectfully as you do to them. Or they can just fuck-off.

I mean it is important to not be a total bitch to those shithead family members but walking on egg shells or feeling obligated to include them in every little thing you do while they make you miserable is not necessary either, especially if they are abusive or manipulative.

When you’ve got a repeat offender to deal with often times finding the right tactic to address the issue is key. I’ve got many shitheads to deal with in my family and thought I could share some more direct ways you can deal with them and save your sanity.

When someone acts abusive/ manipulative or crosses the line with you be direct about what you don’t appreciate and ask that the behavior stops right then and there. I know this is hard to do and can often result in backlash behavior by the abusive one but not addressing it will only cause you more hardship in the future.

I mean if you let someone abuse you and upset you chances are you’ll hold a grudge and will dread the next encounter with them, right? This dread and grudge holding will in turn make you seem like you are coming off bitchy to them once you do actually meet again, and it will obviously make you miserable and stressed the whole time you are anticipating the next encounter so don’t let the abuse slide!

Now let’s practice: “Mom, it is totally unacceptable that you are calling my work and using my coworkers to manipulate me. This upsets me and makes me want to interact with you less and less.”

or

“When you call I would like have a back and fourth conversation about how we are both doing. I don’t mind hearing about how you are but you never let me speak about how I am . This makes having a conversation with you hard.”

Okay, now it is your turn post yours in the comment section below:

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