Someone hurt your feelings? Speak up, then MOVE ON!
DirtyLaundryDiva NewscasterHottie and I aren’t married but we are soon to be married. The number one thing we have dreaded from day one was the day we would have to bring our families together. My family is quite accepting and upfront about feelings (both the good and bad ones).
His family is the polar opposite, they get butt hurt, stew about it and resent you forever. Oh, and occasionally a blow up will happen that reveals all their resentment and bitterness towards you but it is always way after the initial butt hurt so you can’t do anything about it.
As a soon to be married couple we are making decisions about our wedding. The problem is that no matter what we do we are bound to piss someone off, meaning *cough* his family…
WTF? Why should we plan our wedding to make you happy? It is our freaking wedding! We are paying for 100% of it so your expectations are really not welcome.
What truly pisses me off is that I am even worried about the possibility of pissing them off with our decisions. Honestly the only reason I care is because I don’t want NewscasterHottie to have more drama to deal with.
The world would be a much easier place if everyone could just take responsibility for their OWN feelings and move on. If someone hurts you tell them and the MOVE ON!
Don’t keep it all inside and play the poor, poor victim. Grow some balls and express yourself (like Maddona’s song), maturely of course. Then drop the issue and move on. It is much healthier for you and it is much less annoying than your usual shit!
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That’s very good advice. And really you should be planning your wedding just to please you and N. After all, if you are going to piss someone off anyway, then even more reason to do it YOUR way. LOL. Seriously though, you want to always remember it as having been YOUR choice and not regret not doing something because of other people’s feelings. Your day, your way.
Not everyone watched “Everybody Loves Raymond” but I have to say that was the one thing about the show that stuck out at me. Everybody fought, but they always worked through it. I think this is so NOT like real people. We take things so serious!
We made the mistake of letting my husband’s mother tell us who we should have at the wedding. We spent far more than we wanted to because she insisted on adding loads of distant relations to our list and even ended up excluding some of our real friends from the ceremony and only inviting them for the evening party.
My husband would never stand up to her and perhaps I should have heard the warning bells then. 9 years down the road, we separated basically because his family had caused so many problems and arguments between us and he was too much of a wimp to tell them where to get off. They forced him to choose and put so much guilt on him, we both had nervous breakdowns and we split.
Your wedding is your day, if you allow it to be taken over, and things done in a way you don’t want you’ll regret it for the rest of your life.
It bothers me to no end that some people just stew and harbor resentment towards others after some sort of altercation. GROW UP!! Seriously. It is just wasted energy that could be devoted towards other positive things.
And there’s nothing like a wedding to bring out the selfishness of some people, huh? I say do what you want…YOUR day, YOUR way!
I’m hurt that I wasn’t invited to your wedding but I’m not going to stew about it. I’ll just take the money for the present I was going to get you and buy myself a day at the spa. See? Now we’re all happy!
I think that people who would rather stew than get things out in the open feel some sort of power or pleasure out of playing the victim. I can understand not liking confrontation but I sometimes feel as if some people enjoy feeling hurt.
Oh how I hear you! If I could do my wedding over we would have eloped and gone to Vegas and got married by Elvis.
Stand up for yourself and NCH. It is YOUR day. Just keep reminding yourself of that babe.
I hope things work out well for you guys. There is nothing more stressful than planning a wedding! Then, when it’s over, no one thinks twice about all the drama.